Little Acts of Kindness everywhere

A new baby and the uneventful adventures of late-night feeds, led to the binge-watching of Reese Witherspoon’s “Little Fires Everywhere” and its gripping, intertwining storylines. It was so good, my husband finished watching the series before me, which never happens in my household.

Without divulging a single spoiler, and after processing the ending: one profound thought channelled through: “It is important to be kind to others, however, the act of kindness should never be borne out of the need to satisfy one’s ego or re-affirm a position of power”

This further led to me reflecting on the rise of social media, entrepreneurship and the desire to be wealthy. True kindness in the rat race of modern society can seem far fetched as everyone focuses primarily on “making it” personally or professionally.

Yes, collaboration and the sharing of ideas exist, but so too does the need to secure what is “mine”. However the same law of kindness applies personally or professionally, and it is healthy to have some element of altruism, whilst we chase our dreams.

It’s being amazing that throughout this pandemic, communities and individuals have pulled together to help each other and the intrinsic value of kindness has been restored. And I hope this continues long after this crisis.

Kindness about giving to receive or doing good to elevate our status. Kindness when selfless and humbly extended, uplifts the receiver and not the giver, creating a chain of positive actions that makes the world a better place.

Keep giving

Camille x

Big revelations in little moments

It is amazing how a profound revelation in relation to our own indifference, can just waltz into our being at the least eventful moment, challenging our well thought out version of ourselves. A bit of a mouthful I know, but in sharing this reflection, I wanted to take care to accentuate the power of these profound moments in words and how much we need them to help us live in love without prejudice.

Years ago, when the bus was my car, I used to observe this one particular lady and her three kids getting on or off the bus on my way to work. For whatever reason, there was constantly an issue with her oyster card. It then always seemed like the children were at odds with each other and the mother equally at odds with the children. This made for an interesting bus journey but I tell you what; I immediately judged her and her children.

Then over time, I saw her and the kids together less. I observed a shift. The company she kept seemed questionable. Her appearance became more dishevelled and the hustle became key. As my eyes opened to the situation, my judgement grew.

Finally, I no longer saw her with the kids. I saw her alone, homeless on the street. And my viewpoint was dim. Full judgement applied:  I criticise her being, her loss, her faults and what I presumed to know of her. As a mother, my heart went out to the kids, but not her. I would not offer kindness.

Then recently I sat in my car, taking in my surroundings and as I looked up; I met a flash of lady’s face draping across my memory. And then it came to me; that much needed profound realisation. I had no right to judge her and never once in judging her did I pray for her.

Because we presume to know a person, and by this definition cast judgement on them, does not mean we get to forever label, treat indifferently or regard them as unworthy. For we all have sinned and come short of the glory of God. It is shamefully to have judged her but was so easily done. As I sat in my car, I felt a deep sadness at my lack of empathy and kindness.

As people of faith, we fall so short at times in our endeavour to be like Christ. Fortunate for us, He is a big forgiver of sins. So I sought His forgiveness and I prayed over that lady and her kids, as its never too late to pray or correct a wrong. Even if I never see her again, I know my prayer has power and God can do more than I can.

Where has your judgement led you astray or blinded your love and gracious towards others? if so, how can you take positive steps to change this, now or in the future?

Actions you may consider:

  • Pray for the person or situation
  • Offer up a kind gesture
  • Clear the air in a positive environment
  • Commit to reflecting on and paying attention to your thoughts and how they affect your actions.

Survival of the vision

When you have a new idea or desire to make a change in your life, it can be pretty daunting. Especially if you are daring to be bolder than you have ever been. You may have the urge to seek out a friend; to sound out your thoughts or help you gauge whether your idea is way off base or aligns with your vision. The core of who you are and what you want to achieve.

From personal experience, this can be quite powerful. We are at our best when we allow others (the right people) to be a part of our journey. However; who we choose to lean on and when we choose to lean on them should be factored in before there is any leaning.

I say this because often there is a vulnerability or element of fear intertwined with bold decisions to implement or seek change.

Give your idea or boldness to change an opportunity to survive by adapting good sharing habits and fundamentally knowing and being confident in your ability to make good decisions; knowing what’s right for you.

And though we may convince ourselves that “we just want to gauge where we’re at” subconsciously there are times when what is ultimately being sought is validation and not valuable insight. And seeking validation from the wrong person at the wrong time can kill your idea in an instant.

This way when you do approach someone for valuable insight, you are clear in your own mind that you are not seeking validation or permission. You are purely giving voice to your plan, with openness to being challenged positively or discovering valuable gems that could help you along the way.

How can you do this? here are some helpful tips:

  • Ask yourself what do I want to achieve by sharing my thoughts with this person?
  • What makes this person, the ideal individual to connect with?
  • Is the right time? (timing is so important, both in terms of where you’re at and where that person your trusting is at)
  • How am I likely to feel after speaking to this individual?

Lastly but more importantly if you are a person of faith, Why not try asking God. Recently I wanted to find a good Accountant. I prayed about it and God’s reply was for me to ask a friend. I had no idea if this friend even knew an accountant, but it turned out he did!

I pray this week: that your vision will flourish and those you choose to share it with, will add nuggets of wisdom and hope.

Stay blessed x

The time I flew

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I remember standing in the corner, of the front facing garden of my family home back in Jamaica; hidden between the wall of the veranda and my favourite plum tree. Which when in bloom, was like the 25th of December, all season round.

Sheltered from the busyness of the street by the plum tree, and the prying eyes of those inside my house, standing by that corner was my anecdote of heaven. There I would stretch my arms wide open; first the right, then the left. My feet would follow suit and as I felt the air below me, I experienced the freedom of flying.

“I was in the air and it was awesome”This was a memory I strongly held onto from childhood to my early twenties, as vivid as night is day. The belief that I flew! You heard me right, I flew!

I know what your thinking…..humans can’t fly!

I really believed in that vision, that the dream or feeling I had was real. It happened and no one could tell me it didn’t.

I have long loved the outdoors and I think even as a child I was always “exploring, reflecting, trying to find my place in the world” This for better or worse has followed me through my teens, twenties, thirties and hopefully, it will in my 40’s.

That dream was real to me and I did feel and experience the freedom of flying because back then I was physiologically releasing my self from my circumstances and giving my mind permission to wonder, to be free.

As I have gotten older, I may no longer believe I can physically fly or that I ever did, but what I have realised, is something fundamentally greater to my existence in this world.

I realise that I experience the freeing of my mind from situations and challenges through my dreams, prayer and through my love of nature.

“I’ve realised it’s impossible to fully live, unless I’m prepared to accept that I can never stop exploring, or setting my mind and self free through methods others may find out of context. Even more so when viewed in terms of faith, but this is where my strength lies”

Through dreams, my subconscious brings to the surface, so vividly at times the challenges or struggles I’m facing. In some cases through those dreams, I am able to see and understand what my real thoughts and emotions are and what I need to work on.

One might say dreaming about each step of my long awaited promotion and it happening exactly as I dreamt is crazy. But through faith all things are possible. Right? Hell yes!

I unashamedly love praying. I’m not ritualistic and tend to pray as if I’m talking with friends. Prayer is intimate for me and I find it soothing, peaceful and powerful. Through prayer, I feel a great sense of belonging and peace.

Nature, there is just too much to say! Nature is captivating and I can be lost in the untouched woodlands of tall glorious multicoloured trees that rise to meet the sky.

Especially in summer when the trees seem to toy with the sun, giving an illusion of balance in this world. The dynamics of light and dark and how easily one flows into the other. Nature balances me!

So, at the end of the day, am I crazy or am I just living a liberated life? As individuals, we need to be free to see life, the world, through the lens we choose it.

So I encourage you! Dream how you want to dream? Hold onto them no matter and find freedom in the things that unashamedly express the inner you!

Monday motivation – mirror mirror of the world

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The mirror of the world is neither silver nor gold

Designed from unleashed potential and projected self importance

Staring into it’s abyss, often ignites the emotion of inadequacy and comparability

The reflection staring back internally wounded, but externally portrait as “having it together”

With weakness an enemy, the internally hides, eats away at the soul and self is conflicted

mirror mirror of the world, why so cruel?

But am I? Am I truly cruel?

For the subjection of self to staring into that abyss of a made up world, is truly the cruellest?

The glue gun saga and the power of motivation

As a mum of a creative and free spirited 9 year old, I have long learnt that nothing is safe in my house. Old dresses can be transformed into three piece outfits overnight, beautiful cards reserved for little notes to inspire others, become papier-mâché’ and even my sanitary napkin once became a shoe. I kid you not! As proof below you will find one transformed into a unicorn/person.

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Having illustrated the essence of my daughter’s character, I must say, I wouldn’t wish her any different. She is motivated by her creativity, which in turn makes her resourceful and witty.

Not only is my daughter motivated by her creativity, she is also massively motivated by money. I recently shared a video via Facebook, relaying my excitement at having bought a Selfie Stick. It was purchased on a Sunday for £9.99, and used to film my excitement and left in my room to recover.

As I got ready for work Monday morning I noticed my selfie stick had a shine to it. On closer inspection, I found it had been loving wrapped in gold tape. As I started to unravel the tape, I realised the selfie stick was broken. The little clever clogs!

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I promptly rushed into my daughters room, voiced my unhappiness and told her she would need to buy it back from her Christmas money. That was the worst news ever! She chanted the whole morning “I am not using my money to buy it back” and I was adamant, she would.

I have to confess, she did not. Miss little clever clogs, on return from school used the glue gun she received for Christmas to glue the selfie stick back to together! Her response “told you I wouldn’t buy it back”. Forget the cheekiness, in that moment I was so proud!

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Motivated by her creativity and a desire not to spend her money, she resolved to find a resolution to the predicament she found herself in.

It reminded me that at times we can find ourselves in unintended circumstances, where we are presented with limited options or no options at all; effectively stuck between a rock and a hard place.

In sharing this story I want to remind you, that you do not have to be trapped. Let your motivation be your light, your guide, your resolve to finding the right solution for your situation, and not to the detriment of your money, your creativity, your values, your relationship or any other factor. But staying true to who you are

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I encourage you as always to find your “why”, and hold on to it in challenging times. Persevere and find creative resolutions. Be confident in your goals, in your actions and keep striving.

If you find this a struggle, here are some helpful tips:

Reflect on what motivates you and put steps in place to keep yourself motivated, this may include:

  1. Writing down 1-2 sentences that affirm your “why”
  2. Repeating it to yourself everyday
  3. Taking 5 mins out of every day to visualise your vision
  4. Buddying up with a like-minded person