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Let go of the past and take your place in the future

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The biggest limitation to your successful is you! It’s your past and how that plays a role in you being able to trust, believe and walk confidently in following your passion. It’s the limitation you put on taking risk

Today I am encouraging you to take the biggest risk, you’ve every taken. I am encouraging to let go of the past, of all that hinders your future

I encourage you to believe you are good enough, to believe in your skills and talents, to believe you can and that the possibilities are endless. And finally I encourage you to believe that the future is where you belong

Action tip:

*Get a note book or piece of paper

*Write down the things you are struggling to let go of

*Then flip the page and write all the things you want to achieve. Write down the skills and talents you have

*Now go back to the first page and put a line through all you written. Replace it with “my struggles exist but they do not define me”

Pin the 2nd page somewhere you can look at everyday to remind yourself of the future your looking forward to

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Thank you Mrs Obama

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For 2019, I made a commitment to myself to read more. To expand my knowledge, vocabulary and awareness of the world around me. I thought about having a list, which captured definite reads such as; The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho, which powerfully demonstrates that the journey to finding our dream, our purpose is ultimately right in front of us and John C Maxwell’s Put Your Dream to the Test, which I started a year ago.

But Alas, Christmas came and it was dinner and secret Santa time with my tribe. Our annual celebration of the year past and dreams for the future. 2018 was pretty intense, so while thankful, we were glad to see the back of it and we were ready to look forward. And so, it was an inspiration in itself to see that the same present I bought for my secret Santa, was the same present given to me: Becoming by Michelle Obama. Talk about having solid cheerleaders in your life that know just what you need.

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So my idea of a list went out the window and “Becoming” by the first lady of all times, became my first book of the year and it did not disappoint. The book was a revelation and an inspiration to me. So much so that everywhere I go, I find myself pledging to buy it for others. The writing style, the stories, the context, the journey, all eloquently captivated to give the reader a real insight into Mrs Obama’s life, her character, her passion and her values.

Her outlook, mind-set and approach was particularly inspirational. Despite her background, the challenges faced, or the position she now occupies, the former first lady consistently thrives to ensure that her actions and influence bring lasting change to the lives of many. And as someone who believes in the power of kindness to others, Becoming resonated with me on many levels.

By the end of the book, I stood at my kitchen window, looking out at the trees, the calm of the clear blue sky, reflecting on all I had just read. The legacy of it all and I thought this women is phenomenal; what I would say if I ever met her. And in that moment I decided I would write to her. I was going to journal a letter to the former first lady!

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In reality the letter is more meaningful to me, than it ever will be to her. The letter is an affirmation of all the promises I made to myself whilst reading her story. It is to recognise my connection to the world around me. The desire to do good, serve others and be present.

Updating my journal with that letter I realised that I had spent most of the life unconsciously operating in survivor mode. I wanted to do well in life, and that meant never stopping to thinking about my past. I concentrated on racing towards a future “only I could give myself” But in trying to forget the bad, I forgot about the good I had experienced and how that’s contributes to who I am today.

I forgot to look up and recognise the power of the collective and that the collective good can prevail. The world is changing, the struggles still exits. But if we each commit to doing what we can, the world can become a more inclusive place. So I will continue to chase after my dreams and be motivated in doing so. But more importantly I will take time to look up more often and do more good.

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Faith over fear

Let me put this out there, in encouraging you I am not speaking from a place of I have and you do not. I am not telling you I’ve made it and this is how. I am sharing with you that I get it, I’ve felt it and that the struggle is without a doubt unbelievable real.

My heart is to encourage you to see those struggles differently, to hold it together in the face of uncertainty, to take action and move boldly to, to see that we are all on an individual journey and that even when the image is glossy and rose tinted, we all face challenges and we all have successes and it’s all down to action and perspective.

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People look at me and say “you got it all together” someone even once told me “you’re famous now” but that’s perception. My action and perspective got me here. To a place where, I can confidently own my journey, view my challenges as growth and bring a positive mind set to whatever I am doing.

I haven’t made it yet, far from it, there is so much I want to do. My goal is to do colourful and dynamic things that bring positive change to the lives of people. But this is not really about me, it’s about you.

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I want you to know that you are capable, that although what you bring to the table may already exist, the truth is, it still’s needed. It’s still relevant. You are relevant and only you can believe that about yourself and what you have to offer despite it all. To have faith that your life can be everything you ever dreamed and more.

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I like to think that we know within ourselves who we are and we know when it’s make or break time and some of us get lots of opportunities which our eyes are not open to because we feel we can’t’ we’re not ready yet, or that’s not for me, what if I fail.

Let me say this, if you don’t try, you can’t succeed and to succeed, you must fail, and failure is not the end.

So I challenge you when you’re next make or break moment comes what are you going to do?

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Negativity as a catalyst for change

“You will never amount to anything”

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I was a child running around causing havoc only as I would. My tongue was fierce and I was a feisty little madam. I had respect for authority, but I also deeply believed I had a right to readily challenge it. And trust me growing up in the Caribbean that was unheard of. You did what you were told even if, it was the most ridiculous  reasoning you ever heard.

Well intended statements such as “don’t sweep at night” “you think you bright (meaning to say clever) and “don’t question me” was a part of our everyday language. Even now, I often wonder why we continue to spew these words. I know culture is a big part of it, but surely it’s time we changed it?

Context over, here’s what I want to lay down.

One day I had obviously done something upsetting to my aunt but rather amusing to me. I don’t exactly remember what. I suppose you could say my mind fixated on the response rather than the action. And in her annoyance she yelled “you will amount to nothing, you will just get pregnant before time”

That statement is forever edged in my memory and yes subconsciously I still hold on to it. Not because I buy into the negativity it so clearly depicted, but because at the age of 9, I learned my first lesson about identity and self-worth. I heard her words, they became the air around me for about one minute.

I knew the weight of that statement, having heard it said a thousand times in my short little life. It was common and in some ways normal to speak that over girls who exhibited any form of behaviour not consistent with “staying in line with the rules”

You want to know what I did. I reclaimed the air in the room. I rebuked that negativity over me and I vowed to “show them”. Them, being all those who have and would cast down words of negativity on me or put limits of the design of my life. I used that statement to; propel me, challenge me, to find the spirit of resilience in me.

That statement of negativity was a catalyst for change in my life. I am proud of who I, and I strive to live accountable only to myself and my faith. It’s easy to use negativity to control, conform oppress, hide and there are those who only seem to survive by breaking others down

The long and short is, that, for some reason there is more negativity in the world than positive and for obviously reasons it’s harder to control another person’s words or actions. So, that leaves you and your response to it.

Will you allow another’s negativity to break you or will you use it as a catalyst for change in your own life?

Love Camille xx

 

 

 

The are you pregnant question

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For today’s blog post, I thought I’d go modern and do a vblog instead. Which I think brings the point across more (or maybe it’s because I finally bought a selfie stick who knows)

Have you ever been asked the “are you pregnant” question and how did that make you feel?

In the video, I share my experiences of being both on the offending and receiving end, in hope of inspiring us all to make a conscious effect to consider the effect of our words and basically find another conversation starter or high point.

If you know where I’m coming from, let’s hear your story.

Have a fab week

Camille x

Temptation is a one man show

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Recently my 9 year old and I were travelling in the car to a family member’s house. I honestly don’t remember what started the heated debate that ensued but I do remember the end of that battle, third party intervention and all, and the lesson learnt. Temptation is a one man show

At some point in our debate, my daughter advocated that were it not for Lucifer (yes the devil), there would be no sin in the world, as Eve would not have sinned. I promptly responded that is a lie! It was so Eve’s fault. She made the ultimate decision to eat the forbidden apple.

So my daughter says, no; If Lucifer had not dangled the option in front of Eve, she would not have made the decision to eat the apple. And in this moment I realised that this is the reality for some of us, at different points in our lives.  We readily give into temptation based on someone or something else dangling an apparent opportunity before us.

This has led us to believe that the decisions we make or the temptations we give into is influenced by people, the situation we find ourselves in, and at times our own emotion. And honestly I have been there! Putting my daughter into private school when I couldn’t afford it, because I was trying to be an overachieving mum. Going on a spontaneous shopping spree after work because my day was stressful, thereby spending money I did not have and buying clothes I would never wear. Or more recently “indulging” my appetite for McDonalds after making a pledge to eat no more junk food.

The visit to that junk food counter is a prime example of my daughter believing that Lucifer dangling the option of eating the forbidden apple is what caused Eve to give in to her temptation. I went to the supermarket to shop for groceries, it just so happens that the store has a McDonalds. I could have done my shopping and promptly left. But oh no! I and only I, like Eve, made the ultimate decision to eat the burger!

Resisting temptation can be hard, especially if we have a particular weakness in that area, but it is NOT impossible! And that is the truth we need to hold onto. I am not perfect and I still get tempted and give into temptations, but for the most part I have learnt how to better manage my weaknesses. This has in turn, helped me make better decisions.

If temptation is a struggle for you, ask yourself:

  • What causes you me to give into temptation?
  • What are my weak points?
  • And what measures can I put in place to limit giving into those temptations?