When you have a new idea or desire to make a change in your life, it can be pretty daunting. Especially if you are daring to be bolder than you have ever been. You may have the urge to seek out a friend; to sound out your thoughts or help you gauge whether your idea is way off base or aligns with your vision. The core of who you are and what you want to achieve.
From personal experience, this can be quite powerful. We are at our best when we allow others (the right people) to be a part of our journey. However; who we choose to lean on and when we choose to lean on them should be factored in before there is any leaning.
I say this because often there is a vulnerability or element of fear intertwined with bold decisions to implement or seek change.
Give your idea or boldness to change an opportunity to survive by adapting good sharing habits and fundamentally knowing and being confident in your ability to make good decisions; knowing what’s right for you.
And though we may convince ourselves that “we just want to gauge where we’re at” subconsciously there are times when what is ultimately being sought is validation and not valuable insight. And seeking validation from the wrong person at the wrong time can kill your idea in an instant.
This way when you do approach someone for valuable insight, you are clear in your own mind that you are not seeking validation or permission. You are purely giving voice to your plan, with openness to being challenged positively or discovering valuable gems that could help you along the way.
How can you do this? here are some helpful tips:
- Ask yourself what do I want to achieve by sharing my thoughts with this person?
- What makes this person, the ideal individual to connect with?
- Is the right time? (timing is so important, both in terms of where you’re at and where that person your trusting is at)
- How am I likely to feel after speaking to this individual?
Lastly but more importantly if you are a person of faith, Why not try asking God. Recently I wanted to find a good Accountant. I prayed about it and God’s reply was for me to ask a friend. I had no idea if this friend even knew an accountant, but it turned out he did!
I pray this week: that your vision will flourish and those you choose to share it with, will add nuggets of wisdom and hope.
Stay blessed x